EHW Self Care 101: It Is Not What's Wrong With You - But What Happened to You - A Psychotherapy Weekend Retreat (Pick your date: Aug. 2026 or Nov. 2026)

Have you been praying for change, but feel emotionally exhausted, stuck, or unsure how to begin healing again? What if the struggles you carry are not simply signs of weakness… but signs of wounds that were never given safety, understanding, or space to heal?

Trauma does not only affect memories. It affects the nervous system, the body, relationships, emotions, thoughts, and even the way we experience God, ourselves, and others. Sometimes what we call “overreacting,” “shutting down,” anxiety, anger, people-pleasing, emotional numbness, or constant fear are actually survival responses shaped by painful experiences and environments over time.

And many of these patterns did not begin with you. In both Scripture and neuroscience, we see a profound truth: what is unhealed can continue through generations — emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and biologically.

But healing is also possible. God did not design us merely to survive in fear, shame, exhaustion, or disconnection. He created the human brain and body with the capacity for renewal, restoration, attachment, and healing when we are met with truth, safety, compassion, and supportive community.

Romans 12:2 reminds us:
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Healing is not pretending the pain never happened. Healing is allowing God, truth, wisdom, and safe relationships to help restore what trauma tried to shape inside you.

This is why we are inviting you to:

EHW SELF-CARE 101: “What Happened to You, Not What’s Wrong With You” A Psychotherapy Weekend Retreat – Dr. Jiji Harner.

Here is the Registration Form for EHW Self-Care 101: What Happened to You Not What's Wrong with You - A Psychotherapy Weekend https://forms.gle/fPi4dsd9im2zippHA

         This retreat is a safe and compassionate space designed to help individuals begin understanding trauma, emotional wounds, nervous system responses, faith, self-awareness, and pathways toward healing and restoration.

Together we will explore:
• Trauma-informed emotional healing
• Neurobiological understanding of stress and survival patterns
• Biblical foundations for restoration and renewal
• Healthy self-care and emotional regulation
• Compassionate community and reflection

You do not need to have everything figured out before you come. You only need the willingness to begin. Perhaps this is the invitation your soul, mind, and body have been waiting for. Because healing does not happen through shame. Healing happens when truth meets grace, when pain meets safety, and when wounded people are finally reminded they are not alone.

Your story is not finished.
Your pain is not your identity.
And healing is still possible.

Limited spaces available.
We invite you to take the first step toward healing, renewal, and transformation.

See you…

THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE:
When you are ready for a session with me
Just send me a personal message on Messenger Jiji Harner
Here is more information about my services:
https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

April 25-26, 2026 EHW Self-Care 101 Psychotherapy Weekend Retreat

        We had a life-changing Psychotherapy Weekend Retreat. For those who wish to join the next schedule. Here is more information on EHW Self-Care 101: It is Not What's Wrong with You, But What Happened to You - on April 5 and 6, 2025. This is only for those struggling with life's challenges, loss, and transitions. Sometimes in life, we have been through a lot and something was taken out of us - our passion, our dream, our freedom to voice what is inside us. Here is the retreat I designed to help you get unstuck and regain the self that thrives in the midst of all the pressures around us. In this experiential, you will discover how you get stuck and help yourself get unstuck - taking personal responsibility for your own life moving forward. This time knowing who we really are and why are we here for. If you think this is helpful for you or someone you know, please let them know.

        Here is the Registration Form for EHW Self-Care 101: What Happened to You not What's Wrong with You - A Psychotherapy Weekend https://forms.gle/MQJJbiPfCW5fktXv8                                                                                        

                                              💌 THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE:

When you are ready for a session with me

just send me a personal message on Messenger, Jiji Harner

Here is more information about my services: https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

EHW Self-Care 101: It’s Not What’s Wrong with You, But What Happened to You – A Psychotherapy Weekend (Jan. 31-Feb.1, 2026)

EHW Self-Care 101: It’s Not What’s Wrong with You, But What Happened to You – A Psychotherapy Weekend 

Sometimes life asks more of us than we know how to give. We carry wounds we never speak of—moments where something precious was taken from us: our passion, our dreams, our voice, or even our sense of who we truly are.

EHW Self-Care 101: It’s Not What’s Wrong with You, But What Happened to You – A Psychotherapy Weekend is designed with one purpose in mind—to help you find your way back to the parts of yourself that once felt alive, clear, and free.

This retreat is an experiential journey inward. You will gently explore the patterns that keep you stuck, and learn how to release them. You will begin taking compassionate responsibility for your own life, your healing, and your forward movement. Most of all, you will rediscover you—the woman beneath the expectations, the pressure, and the pain. The woman who knows why she is here and what she was made for.

If this speaks to you, or if you know someone who might need this kind of space and support, please pass it along. Sometimes all a woman needs is permission—and a safe place—to begin again.

Here is the Registration Form for EHW Self-Care 101: What Happened to You Not What's Wrong with You - A Psychotherapy Weekend https://forms.gle/KJzXuqoK9S8qug4u5

In case you are unable to attend this retreat and would like to book a session

 

💌 THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE:

When you are ready for a session with me

just send me a personal message on 

Messenger Jiji Harner

Here is more information about my services: https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

On the Front Lines of Exploitation: Unseen Trauma and Essential Care for Those Who Fight Human Trafficking, OSAEC, and Forced Labor

 Championing Frontline Wellness: A Successful 2025 Mental Health & Vicarious Trauma Debriefing and Retreat (Nov 18–20, 2025 Manila–San Pablo Laguna)

I am deeply honored and grateful for the opportunity to conduct the Mental Health and Vicarious Trauma Awareness and Debriefing Retreat for the Ninoy Aquino International Airport Task-Force Against Trafficking (NAIATFAT) Prosecutors, Intelligence Agents, and Partner Agencies—a remarkable group of professionals on the frontlines of protecting Filipino workers from forced labor, human trafficking, illegal recruitment, and other forms of exploitation.

This retreat brought together key personnel from law enforcement, immigration, intelligence, prosecution, social services, and partner sectors—individuals who tirelessly investigate, rescue, and safeguard Filipinos deceived into working abroad. Many of these workers unknowingly fall victim to trafficking and forced labor themselves. While some participants also work on cases involving OSAEC, this event primarily highlighted the urgent and growing challenge of illegal recruitment and labor trafficking, an issue affecting countless Filipino families today.

I extend my deepest appreciation to NAIATFAT leadership, including SASP Chief Jingky Dedumo, team members, and partner agencies, whose foresight and compassion made this retreat possible. Their initiative to invest in the mental health of their people is a strong affirmation that those who protect others also deserve protection, care, and healing.

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Why I Do This Work: My Story as a National Expert in the Prevention and Mitigation of Vicarious Trauma, Secondary Traumatic Stress, Compassion Fatigue, and Moral Injury

For the past twenty years, I have been privileged to work closely with survivors of human trafficking—whether through the online sexual abuse and exploitation of children (OSAEC), sexual exploitation, and forced labor—across the Philippines. During these years also, my husband Rick and his team of teachers extended their educational expertise by providing homeschooling programs in shelters for victims of human trafficking, helping children return to school, learn to read and count, and rebuild the academic competence needed to regain control of their lives.

My work centers on developing evidence-informed, culturally grounded, survivor-centered interventions that honor both the depth of trauma and the extraordinary resilience of the human spirit.

My Chance to Impact Family Intervention in the Court of the Philippines

In 2015, I developed the Reconciliatory Meeting, a pioneering family-therapy intervention now recognized in Philippine courts. I created this intervention for rare, delicate situations where reconciliation becomes the only option to save a devastated life and offer a second chance to a truly repentant offender. 

This structured process was first used in an OSAEC case involving a young victim who longed to forgive her mother, the same mother who had sold her into exploitation but had since shown genuine remorse and a willingness to take responsibility for her crime. The intervention creates clarity around the offense, establishes accountability, allows space for sincere apology and empowered forgiveness, and strengthens healthy boundaries while reshaping family dynamics so that healing, protection, and meaningful change can truly begin.

See more info about this Reconliatory Meeting tool - a legacy I have been privileged to author for my country and trained people to facilitate this intervention in the court. Thank you, International Justice Mission - Philippines, for your amazing work of justice, and more power to your very passionate and dedicated staff  https://www.ijm.org.ph/articles/trauma-informed-courts-dramatically-improve-justice-outcomes-and-survivor-wellbeing

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Answering Another Calling: Caring for the Hidden Victims—Frontline Workers Fighting Human Trafficking

As I walked alongside survivors through their healing, I began to notice another group quietly carrying immense burdens—the very people who rescued, investigated, advocated, and protected them. Behind their strength and passion were sleepless nights, intrusive memories, and hearts slowly worn down by the suffering they witnessed every day. Many didn’t have words for what they were experiencing: vicarious trauma, PTSD, secondary traumatic stress, compassion fatigue, burnout, and moral injury.

In 2017, an international justice organization approached me with a request that felt less like an assignment and more like a calling: to become their National Trauma Specialist and provide care for the caregivers. What began as staff support for one organization expanded into shelters and multi-disciplinary teams across the Philippines. I met administrators, house parents, police officers, prosecutors, psychologists, social workers, and online investigators who had silently endured trauma, believing their struggles were personal failures rather than the natural cost of bearing witness to humanity’s darkest wounds.

This was the moment I realized: healing survivors also means healing those who stand between them and harm.

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I Discovered How Moral Injury Deepens Frontline Workers’ Struggles (2019)

In 2019, my research revealed a critical and often-overlooked truth: moral injury—the deep psychological distress that occurs when one’s actions or inactions conflict with deeply held moral values—was a significant complicating factor for both survivors and frontline professionals. This insight transformed my understanding of trauma care, showing that healing must extend beyond individuals to the organizations, systems, and teams that shape their work.

Bringing together in a Debriefing and Retreat the multi-disciplinary teams and local agencies working on the same cases can greatly enhance cohesion, restore collaboration, improve communication, align vision and mission, and foster higher levels of cooperation—creating a stronger, more coordinated response for vulnerable victims of human trafficking.

Retreats like this are essential for restoring resilience, renewing hope, and rebuilding vision. By providing structured spaces for reflection, debriefing, and reconnection, we can mitigate trauma, vicarious trauma, compassion fatigue, and moral injury, while strengthening the collaborative networks that protect and serve survivors.

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A New Innovation: The Trauma-Informed Spiritual Resilience Retreat (2025)

While I have long provided individual mental health check-ins, group and team debriefs, and organizational staff-care programs, 2025 marked the launch of a groundbreaking intervention: the Trauma-Informed Spiritual Resilience Retreat.

Unlike traditional programs, this retreat works with multi-disciplinary teams and government agencies, fostering cohesiveness, enhancing communication, and deepening understanding of how their work impacts not only their mental health but also their ability to collaborate effectively.

This integrative model combines:

• The psychology of trauma, vicarious trauma, and mental health challenges
• Neurobiology of stress
• Stress management techniques
• Compassion fatigue and burnout prevention
• Moral injury repair through restorative spiritual practices
• Group-based reflective processing

The retreat is specifically designed to mitigate the effects of chronic trauma exposure, compassion fatigue, and burnout, while strengthening resilience to help frontline workers remain grounded, effective, and united—especially those managing complex cases of illegal recruitment, forced labor, and human trafficking.

Suppose you are seeking an evidence-informed, team-centered approach that restores both individual well-being and organizational cohesion. In that case, I am offering an innovative retreat that represents a unique opportunity to support those who bear the weight of protecting society’s most vulnerable.

💌 IF YOUR ORGANIZATION NEEDS THIS:

Just send me a personal message on Messenger Jiji Harner

Here is more information about my services: https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

My Gratitude and Hope:

I am deeply grateful to the leaders who made this possible - SASP Chief Jingky Dedumo and her NAIATFAT Team for inviting other partners to be part of this Mental Health Awareness and Debriefing - Retreat. Their commitment to caring for their people reflects a powerful truth: Frontline workers are not just implementers of justice—they are human beings whose well-being determines the quality and sustainability of our nation’s fight against exploitation.

May this retreat be the beginning of more initiatives that protect the protectors and amplify awareness about the thousands of Filipinos vulnerable to illegal recruitment, forced labor, and trafficking.

I am so grateful to my team Jenny Ozaraga and Noelli Amancio for your support in making this retreat a very memorable event for everyone. 

Thanks all your help. 

Trauma After Typhoon Tino: Recovery for the Devasted Hearts, Minds, and Bodies - and Resources Available for your Children

By God’s grace, my family is safe. Day -2 Thank God, We just got our electricity back. 🙏

Our hearts, however, are heavy with grief for those who have lost loved ones, pets, livelihoods, homes, church buildings, vehicles, and entire communities. The devastation brought by Typhoon Tino is beyond what words, photos, or videos can capture. What we are witnessing is not just a natural disaster, but also human negligence and corruption which have deeply deepened the suffering of those who have survived the collateral damage flash flood. Accountability is needed.

The Impact Reaches Every Part of Life:

1. Physical: hunger, loss of shelter, illness, infections, and the rising death toll.
2. Financial: loss of livelihood and property, with debts and loans still to pay, and other unrecoverable and irreplaceable loss. 
3. Emotional: anger, grief, despair, fear, and anxiety ripple through families and communities. 
4. Psychological: distress, trauma, the rhythm of life and sense of safety are gone; many feel disoriented and deeply vulnerable.
5. Social/Relational: neighborhoods have been washed away, connections disrupted, and communities displaced.
6. Schools destroyed/Academic Performance: The children is the major group who will be suffering from the long-term impact of this catastrophe, physically, emotionally, and academically. They will be struggling to concentrate and their ability to stay focused and absorb what they are learning will be affected. But this trauma impact can be lessen by caring parents, adults, and teachers. It is important to create learning structures to create some form of normalcy and continue to engage the children academically. Children can bunch back. Be proactive. 
7. Be watchful - many of them will turn to unhealthy coping behaviors and vices to numb the internal struggle that they cannot verbalize and are unable to describe. Bring them to community help and any place that can provide their academic and social needs. The G1:27 Tutoring Team Offers Free Academic Tutoring for students' needs from K-12 to the Tutoring Center is located a Purok 7, Nangka Consolacion and it is Open from Monday - Thursday from 6PM to 8PM. NO PAY NEEDED - Parents and caring adults invest your time to the healing and recovery of the children and be patient - go with them to show your support.

🌿As a trauma specialist, I want to gently remind everyone struggling:
If you are grieving or traumatized:

1. Acknowledge your feelings—don’t rush healing.
2. Rest when you can; your body and mind are trying to recover.
3. Stay connected—reach out to loved ones, faith communities, or support groups.
4. Avoid numbing your pain with substances or overwork; these bring temporary relief but deepen long-term suffering.

 If you feel hopeless or lost, seek help. Healing is possible, even if it takes time.

 💌 THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE:

When you are ready for a session with me

just send me a personal message on Messenger Jiji Harner

Here is more information about my services: https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

Trauma Symptoms:

•  Recovery is not only about rebuilding homes—it’s about healing hearts, minds, and bodies. The body carries what the eyes cannot see and the heart cannot speak.
•  Remember, fear, flashbacks, startled response, nightmares, grief, anger, doubts about your faith, depressed, anxious, and discouraged - these are normal reactions to abnormal events

 Here’s What You Can Do:

1. Extra patience and understand that when you are overwhelmed little things can turn into big conflict.
2. Ensure food and rest is provide safety is a basic need.
3. Structure your daily activities to create order in you and your children can focus and continue learning, growing, and engaging with life's challenges.
4. Do physical activities with your kids. Allow them to work alongside you.
5. Supervise your kids screen time, sign them up with online academic resources like Khan Academy, Duolingo, and Purpose Games – my husband Rick Harner https://www.purposegames.com/group/g127/intro, created a thousand plus of online academic resources at your child’s grade level for free for all grade levels K-12. There are more creative ways your kids can learn to address their academic (reading comprehension/math) needs.
6. Engage them emotionally by talking about how they feel and what they think. Secure them, provide comfort and encouragement by showing them how to face challenges and embrace grief and loss, and find help and comfort - from friends, families, meaningful physical activities, fellowships, and prayer

Strengthen your spirituality - because amid this immense suffering, faith, gratitude, and hope in God are our best anchors. They are not just religious and naïve comforts, but protective factors that buffer us from further trauma and help us endure, heal, and recover from anything we are facing in life.

 To those directly affected: your pain is valid, your exhaustion is understood. Healing will take time, but you are not alone.

To those spared: let us not look away. Compassion, advocacy, and accountability are our shared responsibilities.

May God’s mercy sustain us all as we move toward recovery, justice, and collective healing. 💛🙏

Earthquake Mental Health Check-In - How to Overcome Acute Stress Due to Earthquake

 Earthquake Mental Health Check-in 

The magnitude 6.9 earthquake that struck on Tuesday has taken 65 lives, injured hundreds, and left communities in Bogo, San Remigio, Daanbantayan, Medellin, and Tabuelan facing unimaginable loss and disruption.

To those who are grieving, injured, or simply trying to make sense of what happened — we see your pain. These moments can reawaken past trauma and bring deep fear and uncertainty. Please know that your feelings are valid, and you are not alone.

For those who may not be at the epicenter but somehow felt the earthquake, this might have a significant impact on you, especially when you are alone or when you are inside a building several storeys high; this can be very traumatizing for you. Not knowing what will happen next, how to escape, where to go, and when the next earthquake will happen next. When you are experiencing this, know that this is a normal response to sudden and life-threatening events.

Common Reactions After an Earthquake:

You may notice:

1. Fearful: feeling jumpy or easily startled by loud sounds or sudden movements

2. Flashbacks or memories of past disasters

3. Restlessness, difficulty sleeping or relaxing

4. Irritability, sadness, or numbness

5. Physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or fatigue

6. You worry a lot about anything - the durability and stability of the structure of the building you are in. The news about ramphant substandard construction of building, roads, and bridge can become a trauma trigger.

These may be signs of acute stress, which is a natural response after a scary or life-threatening event.

When to Seek More Help:

If symptoms continue for more than a few weeks or feel unmanageable, it’s okay to reach out for professional support. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Mental health support is not a luxury — it's part of healing.

For Debriefing/Counseling/Psychotherapy Needs Contact:

https://safeguardmentalhealth.org/

- Harner Mental Health Services

- Jiji Laprodes Harner

Here are other ways that can help:

Here are a few grounding and coping strategies:

1. Talk to someone you trust — sharing your experience helps process it.

2. Practice deep breathing: Inhale 4 counts, hold 4, exhale 6.

3. Limit media exposure, especially if it's overwhelming or graphic.

4. Stick to routines — structure helps your brain feel safe.

5. Stay connected to friends, family, and community.

6. If possible, do something comforting or familiar (walk, prayer, music).

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY DISCIPLESHIP WORKSHOP Postponed: Community Crisis Takes Priority

            Is your church facing growing challenges with shallow spirituality, mental health struggles, broken relationships, or a lack of emotional safety in small groups and homes? I invite you to the Emotionally Healthy Discipleship (EHD) in-person workshop. On November 15, 2025, at 7:30AM – 12:00NN at the Baptist Theological College, AS Fortuna, Mandaue City. As a Christian Counselor/Psychologist, I recommend EHD for your church or for yourself. Emotionally Healthy Discipleship is a biblically grounded pathway that integrates emotional healing with spiritual growth—offering a clear, Christ-centered solution to build a culture of safety, authenticity, and lasting transformation. This proven approach can help your family, small group, or churches move beyond surface-level faith to cultivate deep, healthy disciples who love God, others, and themselves well. If your community is ready for real change, Emotionally Healthy Discipleship is the way forward. 

            Looking forward to seeing you during this workshop. Get a discount to attend this workshop. Early Registration - Only Php 500 - after November 10th, Registration will be 600. 

          Here is the registration form: https://forms.gle/s4WoWG6p3m8fBLxf7

Registration includes: the Emotionally Healthy Discipleship book